22 June, 2013

Forever Feels Wonderful



The Max

Beavers baseball game at PGE Park

The batting cages

The bowling alley
{First kiss on my temple} :)

Driving around

The movie theatre

More driving around

Then Applebees

And that,
my friends, 
 on the first date;
10 years ago today.

It's how forever feels

And Forever feels wonderful.


16 June, 2013

More Important

For all the Dads out there that realize their true prize and have their priorities straight:

"Then in the midst of that marvelous personal moment, Stewart focused on Phil Mickelson, whose own U.S. Open dream had just been pierced by one of the most memorable strokes in the tournament's long history. Stewart walked over and took Mickelson's disappointed face into a vice grip with both hands. Knowing Mickelson and his wife, Amy, were awaiting the arrival of their first child at any moment, Stewart found just the right words, "You're going to love being a father," Stewart told Mickelson through the noise of the moment.


The photo of the father and the father-to-be, which hangs in the Pinehurst Resort clubhouse not far from where it happened, captured the exchange which reached beyond golf.
A few years later, recalling Stewart's words, Mickelson said, "That was pretty cool."

Just like Payne Stewart himself, yes it was."

-1999 US Open.

SO much better than winning:

Happy Fathers Day.....

15 June, 2013

Sometimes It's Ok To Break The Rules

10 years ago today I made the most important life changing phone call of my life....

It was Father's Day 2003 and we had an extra ticket for a baseball game the following Sunday. I knew, as soon as we found out we had an extra one, that I wanted a particular someone to go, but that meant I would have to break my own rule.

I am forward, loud and speak before I think, way too often, but I always said I wasn't going to be the first one to ask a guy on a date. He had to be the one to make the FIRST move.

It's not that I was afraid of rejection, I just didn't want to be "one of those girls..."

All weekend long I argued with God.

"But I don't want to make the first move."

"Just ask him."


"Just do it."

After having dinner and leaving the Father's Day dinner guests in the house, I walked outside and paced back in forth in front of my parents house. I finally got up the nerve and prayed one last prayer that no one would answer at his Dad's house or that he himself would be gone if it wasn't meant to be.

I couldn't tell you who answered the phone but I barely squeaked out asking for him.
The person said yes and left to go get him. After what seemed like an eternity, a very groggy voice said hello.
I told him who I was and then after an extremely short amount of small talk, I explained that we had an extra ticket for the baseball game the following Sunday, and that he was "more than welcome" to "accompany me" if he was able.
Apparently he had been sleeping, (which explained the groggy voice,) and I caught him extremely off guard. He seemed shocked at the invite, but told me that he thought it would be fine and he would get back to me with his "for sure" answer. The phone call ended soon after that as we both had our respective Father's Day celebrations going on.

After I got off the phone a perma smile had settled on my face and there was absolutely no way I regretted my decision.

The next day he called me as soon as I got off work and we preceded to talk for the next 2 hours. As I mentioned before in Our Love Story, when I asked him to that baseball game that day, a light bulb when off in his head. In fact during that 2 hour plus phone call the next day, he asked me out on a second date before we even went on our first one.

So yeah,

I am going to say it's ok to break your own rules every once in awhile....

I'd say it worked our pretty well for us. :) :)

10 June, 2013

Finding Work After The Military

For those that have been following me, I have shared a little about the struggles my husband has had with finding a job post USMC.
I haven't gone into detail, as other things have gotten in the way, but I think it's sad. It shouldn't be that hard for someone who served his country for almost 9 years, to get out and find a job that supports his family.
Especially when so many companies advertise veteran hiring friendly and
then don't even bother to look past the fact that he doesn't have a degree. 
I am sorry, but maybe he was too busy working "overtime" and deploying to go back to school...

To help us with this, today I have a guest post from Emma at Smile As It Happens with tips on finding deployment whether you are a spouse or former active duty.

The Truth About Your Job Search Following a Military Career

Individuals leaving the military are faced with a number of challenges. You may wonder if you will ever find a rewarding career outside the military. While the transition to civilian life may seem overwhelming, there are several resources to help you along the way. As you begin your search for civilian employment, be sure not to buy into the many myths that will only serve to discourage you. Instead, take a look at the truth about finding employment as a civilian.

Myth #1: The jobs available to you as a military veteran are limited and difficult to find.
Truth: Programs exist to make it as easy as possible for military veterans to find civilian employment. Several of today’s top companies have joined together to form one such group called 100,000 Jobs Mission. This organization offers information on a variety of fields as well as statistics on projected growth rate within various fields, annual salaries and required education for the various job types. The goal of this organization is to fill 100,000 jobs with military veterans by the year 2020. On their website you can even search for specific jobs that will utilize the skills you learned during your military career.

Myth #2: Employers simply don’t care about job seekers.
Truth: Although many employers receive huge numbers of job applications on a regular basis, they understand the importance of attracting the best people to fill open positions. In order to attract these individuals, many companies have streamlined their application processes. Utilizing platforms provided by JIBE, a mobile recruiting specialty company, these companies allow job seekers to simply and swiftly upload resumes and other documents right from their smartphone or tablet. Other companies, in order to attract and keep top talent, offer special benefits such as the option to work from home, extended PTO, flexible work hours, and more.

Myth #3: While unemployed, you should focus only on applying to jobs.
Truth: There are many aspects to job searching other than simply applying to jobs. Additionally, you need to remain or become active in your community in order to make the connections that will aid you in your job search. Volunteering provides a great opportunity to get involved in your community or a special cause, and the experience will look good on your resume. Furthermore, your volunteer work might ultimately translate into a paid position, or you could meet someone during your volunteer activities that will help you find gainful employment. Opportunities come when we least expect them, so don’t count anything out!

Myth #4: Since you took direct orders during your time in the military, you should only work for someone else when transitioning to a civilian job.
Truth: Although your military career taught you how to take and follow through with orders, you are leaving the military with a full portfolio of transferable skills. Many of these skills may help you become a successful entrepreneur. If you’re interested in starting your own business, but aren’t sure where to start, there is a company called Inc. which gives military members assistance in all aspects of developing and running your own business. They offer assistance with thing such as financing and naming your business, to developing budgets and identifying insurance needs. They really are your one-stop shop for all the questions you may have.

Every change in life presents its own set of challenges. As you transition out of military life, debunking myths and learning the truth about civilian jobs will help you to embrace the possibilities, and move forward with this next phase in your life.

01 June, 2013

So what can they do; My Letter to the Church

We are coming up on the 1 year mark since I wrote this post.

To this day when I read it, tears well up in my eyes and now when I look back, I can't believe how much has changed.

I really wish it had all turned out differently, but I have to trust God's plan for our lives.

I am getting away from my point, but I meant everything I said.


I really truly believe that a military member needs to be treated as a missionary sent out into the world.

I really truly believe that service members, that were raised in their "flocks," or at one point worshiped with the body, need to be treated as if they are still active members in the church.

I really truly believe that prayers need to be going up for these families at all times, (not just a fleeting thought/prayer during deployments.

They appreciate your support on Memorial Day, Armed Forces Day, Veterans Day....
But they need more.

There are women/wives battling depression, infidelity, loneliness, alcoholism, abandonment, worthlessness, etc and they have to suck it all up and handle it for a year at a time or more, ALL BY THEMSELVES. It doesn't just magically go away when there are no deployments either...

There are men/husbands dealing with alcoholism, infidelity, superiority, PTSD, and the number one issue: porn;
ALL THE TIME. It just doesn't magically go away when there are no deployments either.

Are you praying about that?

When a member of your church joins/leaves for the military, are they suddenly not in need of discipleship, prayer, and encouragement?

Are they suddenly strong enough to handle everything on their own without the support of a church?

Oh, but certainly they will find a church on their own right away and they will be a "problem" for some other pastor/elder.....

                                                   ****So what can you do??****

Meet their recruiter before they leave for boot camp. Ask questions about the struggles they will be going through as a single or married military member.

Make them feel like they are still a member of the body.

Set up an area in the main entrance of your church that is dedicated to military families. With photos of the service member and/or family. (Out of sight out of mind)

Keep the service member and their family in your church directory with current address along with deployment addresses. Every time they move, search churches out for them in their new location. 

Keep the men/husbands responsible by keeping in touch.

Keep the women/wives responsible by staying in touch.

DON'T expect their relatives to keep you properly informed.

Just like you send out missionary newsletters, send out military family newsletters. Let your church body know what is happening in their lives also. (Out of sight out of mind.)

Sound like too much work? Pray about it. Email me for help or suggestions.

Please just get involved in their lives.
Disciple them.
PRAY for them daily.

PLEASE PLEASE SHARE this post as much as you can. Email it to pastors, elders and anyone you know involved in ministry.

I don't want them forgotten anymore......