28 March, 2011

A letter to my husband:

The time has come again for you to go do your job.

Not that you don’t do your “job” on a daily basis, but the time has come where being a military man means putting aside everything that you love in life and sacrificing to go serve your country in a war zone.

No holidays, no weekends, no daily comforts.  Just you, some “co workers”, a WHOLE lot of sand and people that strap bombs on their backs for the fun of it.

Normally you leave with ease and take pride in the part you do, but I know this time you are struggling. You are leaving under negative circumstances and you don’t know what to expect. You will be over there with people you don’t know very well, with whom you don’t know if you can trust.

Not to mention leaving your family.
The last time you left our first born was 7 weeks old, but I had a great support group where we were stationed and we felt confident it would be ok. Now, we have two kids at difficult ages and our time here in California has been difficult so far. We both are quite nervous that I have very few trustworthy people to call on if needed. Not only that, our oldest is old enough to miss you and I am just not sure how that it going to go.

Time and time again I hear of military wives say they are glad from the break from their husband and say you get used to it over time. 

They are obviously NOT married to their best friend.

I am ever so thankful for today’s technology. Gone are the days of waiting weeks, months even, to hear from your deployed loved one. Today the tough part is when communication is shut down for 4-7 days and there is not a peep. Every military wife knows that is not the time to talk to us.

So here we are. Making our countdowns to an unknown date. Collecting boxes and customs forms for mailing care packages. Doing things around the house to make it a little easier for me to be mom and dad while you are gone.
BTW, do you think I can hire someone to take out the trash? ;)

Oh man how I love you.

I hate:
Sleeping by myself.
Spending summer evenings wishing it was you at the grill.
4:30/5:00 rolling around every evening and the garage never opening.

I always miss:
Your little boy grin when you really truly are excited about something.
Our trips to the outlets, Lowe's and Best Buy.
You pretending to be annoyed with me when I really really want something.

Be safe Marine and never forget how much we need you to come home safe and sound…

I love you DAR!

25 March, 2011

My Review of Fisher-Price Precious Planets Doll Playard

Originally submitted at Toys R Us

The new Fisher Price Precious Planet collection for little girls takes role play to new levels. Deluxe Playard perfect for playtime and nap time. Let's dolls play and nap at home and away. When it's playtime, enchant your dolly with the sweet bright Precious Planet animal mobile! At nap time ...

ADORABLE, We love it!!
By marinewife1111 from San Diego, CA on 3/25/2011
4out of 5
Pros: Fun To Play With, Good Quality, Easy To Assemble
Cons: Thin un-supportive bottom, No music
Best Uses: Young Children, Older Children
Describe Yourself: Parent of Two or More Children, Stay at Home Parent
Was this a gift?: No
As I said in the cons, It would be better if the mobile played actual music and there was better support at the bottom for heavier dolls.
But all in all, it is a wonderful doll bed and I would buy it again!!

17 March, 2011

Green Lovin

Who doesn't love some Irish luck??

Or a good luck CHARM!

Happy St. Patrick's Day Everyone!!

16 March, 2011

A year later

I am still on a guilt free break from blogging, but this last week has brought on a lot of reflecting for me.

The first 2 weeks of March mark the the one year anniversary of us leaving Beaufort, arriving in southern Cali, moving into our house, and my husband checking into his new command with bad news.

I choose to live a life of no regrets, but that doesn't mean I still don't like to think about how things turned out and how I can learn from the stuff that happened.
For those who haven't been following long or haven't read back to catch up, we prayed for orders to California for a year. We wanted to be "closer" to family and we wanted to be in an area that provided more things for us to do.
{We thought} we hadn't enjoyed the laid back low country life style/attitude and we thought southern California would better meet our needs/wants.

We couldn't have been more mistaken.

But none the less, God answered our prayers and we are here.

Now we could go on and on about the horribleness of this southern half of this large and long state, but again, God placed us here and I need the daily reminders that its not about my happiness, but what I've done for HIM lately.

Which leads me to things to contemplate.
I'll start with some positive thoughts:
-There are so many things to do here within just an hour and a half both ways:
  • 3 MLB ball parks
  • NFL stadiums
  • NBA team
  • San Diego Zoo
  • Legoland
  • Sea World
  • We live 2 minutes from the Pacific Ocean and a private beach
  • Disneyland {hello 45 minutes away people}
  • Knotts Berry Farm
  • Six Flags
  • Hollywood, Beverly Hills, etc
  • golf courses in every direction
 But is it really worth it?
Is it really worth it to live in an area with a lot of fun things to do but yet with such a high crime rate?
How is it the best for our kids when the schools aren't the best academically or safe and English is a second language?

I am finding out more and more, (the hard way,) that life really isn't about my happiness, in ANY issue.

That's not to say God doesn't want us to be happy, but our first command is to be holy.

SO here we are, a year later.
I have survived a year living in a sardine can with no yard.
My husband survived a year with his new command.

Are we happy with our circumstance?

I will not lie, we are not.
But I guess that's not me focusing on being holy is it?!

SO pray with me/for me friends. Pray that I can be a light where I am, pray that I can not let the negative voices cloud my thinking and pray that I can be kept from my hermit like ways while my husband is deployed!

08 March, 2011

Why the silence??

I was raised with the saying:

"If you don't have anything nice to say, 
then don't say anything at all."

And that is why I don't have blog posts rolling out!

I know I don't have to explain, 
you may not understand completely but I know you understand to a degree.
The last thing I want to be doing with only 4 short weeks left with hubby is creating blog posts!

So the silence continues...

I'll leave you with my two top blog reads for the day;

The first are verses that I am clinging to from a blog I just found:

And the second was a well needed smile for the day from one of my favorite blogs:

01 March, 2011

Oh, it's pay day

Its time to bring up another controversial subject because I have been in a "blah" mood lately and I feel like picking fights.....

I've had a few too many people tell me lately it must be nice to have nice cars, nice stuff, and to be able to buy nice gifts for each other on holidays/birthdays all while saying they can't afford anything nice or extra, constantly...........
I've also had a few too many military spouses complain to me about how little money our husband's make and they wish they could afford to buy proper clothes/food for their children but yet they go out and drink all the time and continue to buy cigarettes and other unnecessary items!

I usually just keep my mouth shut and nod my head, but I have a few things to say on the subject.

First of all,
I would GLADLY trade my "nice" things to have my husband home 365 days a year. If you think for one minute I like having to say goodbye to my husband and my children's Daddy for any amount of deployment time so we can have "padded wallets," YOU ARE CRAZY, and I 'm really getting sick of "being slapped in the face!"

On a second note, I am a really frugal wife. I save like crazy the extra money we do get from deployments, so its not tight when things are tight.
We don't have extras like internet phones, subscriptions to magazines or memberships to gyms.
We went without A LOT of stuff at the beginning of our marriage so we could pay off my husband's bills and student loans. I have always made sure that when we did have a loan on a car, I made extra payments whenever we could, to whittle away at the loan and not pay as much interest.
When we were pregnant with our daughter, I bought a lot of neutral stuff so that if we had a boy later on, he could use the stuff also. We didn't have to buy anything new for him except his own crib.
I don't understand the people that complain about no money, but have a second kid and then buy a whole new set of baby stuff for him/her!

Sorry for pressing buttons, and I am NOT saying this is the norm with every situation and as usual there is an exception to every rule!


For the people that complain about our "nice" things: walk a mile in someone elses shoes....

For the people that complain that the military doesn't pay enough to even pay for the basics/bills: QUIT spending beyond your means, prioritize, and save!

Ok as usual I am sure everyone took this the wrong way, but I needed to vent.
Someone honestly complained to me because my husband gave me a nice camera lens for my birthday, so I let it eat at me until it reached a boiling point!