20 March, 2010

and The Saga continues.....

Well my friends, we need more prayer for our family....

I will not tell a lie,
we are having a hard time here in sunny Southern California so far.

 Living in a small town for almost 5 years, no matter where we had been before kind of made us lazy. Things are SOOO different here. I know we wanted this, but to tell you the truth, we have looked at each other and asked if maybe we made the wrong choice more than once.

We now have a bigger home, but it is a fourplex ,that looks more like a glorified apartment building. We now have NO yard, no privacy, and can hear every movement our neighbors make.

J now has 3x the commute and we never see him anymore; he comes home, eats dinner, and goes to bed only to be gone at 0530 to do it all over again the next day.
Next week, he will be having 14/15 hour work days and that doesn't even count his commute.

And to tell you another truth: I almost miss our big Supercenter Walmart back in Beaufort! ;)

We will adjust, I know we will....
BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT...I have to do it BY MYSELF!

Which leads me this post requesting more prayer yet again.

J checked into his very first day of work this past Monday and got the news that as a military wife, always leaves me feeling empty and more alone than anything else.
Only its the scariest yet!
He is deploying at the end of summer for a whole 13 months to Afghanistan...

And what has us the most annoyed, starting in May, he will be gone for some kind of training every month up until they leave. Which means he might not be here for the birth of our second child.
And now I must do this all again BY MYSELF except now it is a longer deployment and I have will have a 2 and half year old along with a newborn!

Now I know what you must be thinking...
HELLO, he is a Marine, what do you expect??
We are in a time of war, people deploy!!!!
But its so easy for others to think and say that when they don't experience this life!

We knew he would deploy again at some point. In fact, he wanted to go to Afghanistan at some point. But he also wanted be there when his son was born and actually be around to see this one with its firsts since he missed it all with Turtle. His plan was to actually volunteer to go next year after we were settled and the baby was older.
But NO, his monitored FAILED to mention this unit was deploying when J was asked if he wanted orders for here.
So after being in our new home for only 6 days, we get the news...

Just please pray for us....Overwhelmed, angry, and hurt are just some of the feelings I (we) am (are) going though at the moment!

Thank you!

02 March, 2010

Bye Bluebell Bye Beaufort

Well the time has come....
....and there have been many points along the way we NEVER thought it was going to happen!


In 2 days, we will pack up everything we own (which by the way is A LOT of junk we have acquired in the last few years,) and head 2600 miles to California.
We realize Southern California has A LOT of its own issues, but we have been praying about moving back to the west coast for almost 2 years now, and since J re-enlisted, our only chance to get back to the west was via Southern Cali!
The funny/ironic thing is, we arrived in Beaufort South Carolina on September 3rd, 2005, moved into our home on the 7th and celebrated our very first wedding anniversary on the 11th. What a week!

Now we will be leaving March 5th, 2010 almost exactly 4 and half years from the day we moved in!
Most people over here or in the military couldn't figure out why we "chose" orders all the way out here to begin with! Most people who are stationed here, are from the east coast or the central part of the US.
We wanted orders for the east coast....we wanted to experience a different "culture"....to be away from family a bit! Some may think that last reason is harsh, but I think all newly married couples should have a period of time where they are away from people they rely on so much. You need some time to build your marriage leaning on each other and God. Its so sad when some are more dependent on their parents instead of their spouse.

Anyway, I am ending up on a huge bunny trail...

We wanted an adventure and boy did we get one!

This is what out humble home looked like when we arrived:


It was nice being in a different area, and the people here just LOVE it here. Unfortunately for us, we could NOT stand it! People kept telling us, "oh it grows on you!" We kept waiting for that to happen.... It never did. We are from the NW! You cant beat the NW!!
Who wants to share a home with spiders that can kill you.... walk outside only to walk straight into a swarm of sand fleas or "love" bugs....humidity so high that in the summer you can't even walk down the block without being drenched with sweat or pass out from lack of air!
I am not a big fan of 80 degree weather on Christmas, sea food, fried chicken, ocra, or grits!
When we drive down the road, we'd like to be able to at least drive the speed limit....laid back southern living is not for us!
Some might say, well what about that great southern hospitality??
Its hard to find in a military town...civilians don't seem to like us! :(

Maybe it was a bit of home sickness; Beaufort, Savannah, Charleston...they just never seemed to grow on us!

I myself have been through some personal up and downs.
When we arrived I was A LOT thinner with long blond hair, a sunnier disposition, and very naive in a lot of ways.
I survived my first real deployment when hubby went to Japan/Korea for 6 months!
Although halfway in between, 6 days before Christmas, when all of our friends were away for the holidays, a car in oncoming traffic came into my lane and totaled our car (with me in it!) That was my first big hurdle with no husband and all my family 3000 miles away!
Then when I was 33 weeks pregnant with our daughter, we got the news hubby was leaving immediately to train for Iraq and we had no idea if he would be here for her birth and how old she would be when he would return, (if at all!) So I would be alone again to raise her for her first 9 months with no husband or family!
I survived....I may be a lot hardened and tougher, but I made it.

Now not all of our memories are bad.
We will leave here with a ton of good ones.

This was our house last summer after 4 years:
We met A LOT of wonderful people here, who love the area and are from areas closer to here, so we will probably never see them again, but none the less, good times were shared and friendships made, never to be forgotten!
Because we were apart for 10 months out of the first year we were married, our whole marriage life has pretty much been spent here, we got our first pet here, and excuse my bluntness, but conceived both kids here! ;)
Brought our daughter into the world here and for the last 2 years raised her in the only home she has known thus far! She didn't seem to mind!

And I will admit, you can't beat the thunderstorms here! For a period of time in the summer, we have them daily and then once in awhile, a real dozy of a one comes along and I LOVE them!!
Seeing the sun more often does have its advantages....
We may not like how old and run down our home here is/was, but we did have a 3 bedroom home with a garage and many things to be thankful for! So in closing....we are not sad to say goodbye to Beaufort....we are sad to say goodbye to the friends that haven't left already! Thank goodness we don't have to say goodbye to the memories!
On to a new adventure!!