27 August, 2009

Peace perfect Peace

NO one wants to write a sad note, but I wanted to share this as a reminder to not take life for granted.

Now as a military wife with my husband's profession, death is always a thought on my mind. I do NOT fear death as I know where I am going, but the thought of my husband dying is in an always too loud whisper in my mind that freaks me out. But again you have to trust God and his plan.
On another note, you don't always think of kids or young adults dying in the civilian world, cuz it just "doesn't" happen. Parents should not have to bury their kids, it's just not meant to be......then a phone call or email comes...or in my case, a status update.

On Monday, a very close dear friend had as her status update, that her 20 year old son had been found dead on Sunday afternoon. I was in shock, but at the same time, it didn't sound like her, so I put it off as a cruel joke by one of her boys, and decided not to react until I got some more news.

In the meantime, I'll give you a little background on how I know the family.

I met them in 1998 when they started coming to our church. They had 3 young boys and were pregnant with their 4th. I obviously did not get to know them too well yet, as they were a young married couple with kids and I was 17, but time went by and they had another boy. Molly heard I babysat/nannied and asked if I would come hang out a couple times a week to help out as she home schooled the older ones. Little did I know the "adventure" that was about to start and the lifelong bond that would become of it! When the youngest boy was only a year and a half, they had twin girls! So needless to say, in the summer of 2000, I was at their house more than I was at my own!

Now kids grow up, including me, ;) so I didn't nanny for them forever, but memories were created and I will forever LOVE them! {On another note, their grandpa actually delivered my dad 60 years ago!}

Back to the current...more comments started pouring in and then the dreadful moment came when Molly herself sent me a message...Adam had died in his sleep and they were devastated.

My heart just broke for them...and it still hurts! He was 10 when I started helping their family, so he kind of resented having a babysitter, and even though we clashed sometimes, a few minutes later, he would be the one to first help out if I needed something. I never saw anyone smile the way Adam did. His eyes would crinkle up, and his whole face would break out into a HUGE grin.

I guess Jesus was done sharing....
Don't take ANYONE for granted, say I Love you...life is too short for grudges... and if you have a moment: Lift the Garland family up in prayer to give then peace and comfort during this time.
And if you knew them, here is a link for the memorial service info: http://www.gtbc.org/

Adam Garland
7/17/89-8/23/09
Gone but never forgotten

05 August, 2009

And two became one! 7-25-09

Ok well, we had to miss out on yet another VERY important family event...*sigh*.
A first cousin on my mum's side, (her baby sister's firstborn,) Dustin, got married on July 25th! We actually had the pleasure of meeting Kelly when we went home for a visit back in May of 2007! From what I have heard and seen, the wedding went absolutely wonderful inspite of the intense heat during the ceremony and then the surprise thunder and lightening storm during the reception!
Again, I hated not being there, but so many friends and family members took so many wonderful pictures, that thankfully in this day and age of digital photography, I was able to share in their special day!
I must give a shout out to the photographer who shot their wedding! Anita Chapman of Perfect Moments Photography. From the sneak peaks, her work is AMAZING!! Here are a couple of her sites!: http://perfectmomentsphotography.blogspot.com/ and
http://www.perfectmoments.ca/

The rest of these were taken by other relatives:

Aunt Jocelyn and Uncle Pete with Dustin:
(Mother and Father of the groom)

The groomsmen:
(my baby brother was the best man)

Welcome to the family Kelly!!

Virginia to see daddy at last!!

So after a very long 6 weeks, Turtle and I packed up the car and headed back up to Virginia to spend a few days with daddy and watch him "graduate"!
I think the 6 weeks with a 17 month old was almost as hard as the first nine months with her by myself! I was so emotionally exhausted and just needed to be able to rest in my hubby's arms!!
We went up there on Saturday July 11th, and made good timing and just went out to dinner and enjoyed relaxing as a family in the evening. On Sunday, our only full day together up there, we did the one thing the J&M Ramer family knows how to do best: we hit Virginia Beach and went mini golfing (putt-putt) at 3 different places!!
A bad storm came in, so we didn't get to do the rest and just spent the humid evening on the hotel.
After deployments, mini or long, I tend to get sick as my body finally relaxes and tends to give up! So most of the time up there, I was not feeling well which continued until after we got home. But any military wife can tell you, we would rather be sick and have our spouse home, then be well and be without them!
On Monday, J had to go to his last day of school, so T and I headed out in the morning to burn off some energy at the NEX and then spent the rest of the afternoon in the hotel room until J got home.

Graduation Day!!! Or I should say morning!
Turtle never sleeps well in hotels, so at this point along with being sick, I just felt like a walking zombie. Graduation was at 9 in the morning at the classroom. J had to be there early as usual, so Turtle and I met him at the school at 845.
I should have brought my zoom lens as family members had to sit in the very back and it was slightly dark in the room, so my pics turned out horribly.
A pic of our tired worn out, but finally together family!!
After graduation, we left for Virginia Beach again and finished the mini golf courses we didn't get to the other day, did a little window shopping and then went to the Virginia Beach Aquarium that is near Oceana Naval Base. On the outside this thing is huge, so it looked like there was gonna be a lot to see, but we were NOT impressed.
Most of the place was under renovation and there was a lot of wasted space where there could of been more exhibits. Needless to say, there was a good sized turtle exhibit so it wasn't a total waist of money. ;)
 I just had the point and shoot camera with me, but here are a couple of pics:

We didnt get to go to it, but also near the aquarium there is a HUGE water park with slides, wave pools and everything! Something to keep in mind if we are there again!
On another note, if you live on the east coast and are looking for a great place to vacation, there is a never ending amount of family fun in Virginia Beach!!

Relatives!!

A visit from some relatives

Catching up

I am behind in my "positive" blogging so I am just gonna catch up on some of the happenings over the past few months. I'll leave the negative happenings for another time! ;).

On another note, we'll start out with my "baby" brother graduating high school on June 5th!!
I haven't seen him in over two years and he was tall then, but now he's like 10 ft tall!!
Ok not really, but I am very proud of him and pray that he will continue to follow God's path for his life!
We of course had to miss out on it, but here is a picture our older brother took of him that night!



Congrats 2009 grads!!